02.17.05
Self Image and Suits.
We all have the power to change. However, we need to give ourselves that power. No one is going to make the change for us, we need to do it on our own.
Self Image and Suits.
In this show you’ll hear a story from a listener who changed his self image around. You’ll learn how to get women to start conversations with you. Finally you’ll learn why girls shy away from desperate guys.
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dean said,
February 18, 2005 at 6:23 am
Hi there, My name is Dean and I’m friends with the chap who was the subject of today’s show. I’m the person who dragged him around town looking for said suit and I havew one or two things to add on the subject of satorial elegance. If you have the build (and please be honest with yourself here) try wearing velvet. I’t s different and it’s nice to stroke. I often find myself beseiged by young ladies stroking my jackets and waistcoats (I belive in the colonies they are still refered too as vests). The Waistcoat (or Vest) is a truly wonderfull invention. It is in effect a mask for your body. If you are unsure of your body shape then a waistcoat wonderfully blends your torso into your lower body and descreatly hides anything that modern society would deam ‘imperfect’. If you wish to make an impresion then a vivd wasitcoat can catch the eye and become a focal point. Dressing the part is ofcoruse only part of the issue as you stated however, dressing well does tend to give one a sence of confidence. And if all else fails remeber these simple points.
I am;
a) Very over weight
b) Disabled
c) concidered by many in society as abnormal (in other words a transvestite;)
d) been happily engaged for 8 years to a wonderfull girl….
e) CONSTANTLY having to turn down offeres from young ladies.
Enshroud yourself in simple old world elegance and manners and you will be most amazed at what can happen.
Thank you for your time
Dean
American said,
February 23, 2005 at 12:38 pm
Hey,
I wear suits sometimes when I go sarging and shit, but I ve never seen a waist coat, but if its worked for you, its gotta work with others too, what would be good brands for waist coats?
Thanks
dean said,
February 23, 2005 at 4:27 pm
In the UK at least you tend not to see them in reguler shops but in old fashioned tailors. The best place I have found for waistcoats or anything that’s slightly unusual is wedding hire shops. Just go in and ask if they have any ex rental stock for sale. I’ve managed to get a Dinner Jacket (Tuxedo) for next to nothing that way, as well as a few waistcoats and velvet jackets. These days if I need a waistcoat I just mke them myselfthough, so maybe you could keep an eye out for a independant fashion designer. aprentice tailor who’s after some work
Quinton said,
March 11, 2005 at 8:29 pm
I don’t think wearing a suit is the way to pick up wemen, or men.
Improving your self-image is a process that can’t happen overnight.
It is somthing that you have to work at. The same thing goes for picking up the opposit sex. If you come off as shy, unsure, and nervous then your chance’s of meeting, or even going home with them has now dropped down to slim to none. However There is a way, and depending on the person it can be a long process or a short process. First things first, ask yourself who your friends are( your true friends). Look at how they carry themselve’s. Tell yourself that is not what you want to be. You do not want to be your friend. Learn to look yourself in the mirror and be able to say what you would needs to change about you and what you would like to change about you. Remember it’s what you need vs. what you want. Don’t go out and buy new clouths just yet. If you can’t be comfortable in the clouths you have now, how do you expect to have comfort in something you have never worn. Work with what you have first. Once you are able to acomplish this without feeling bad then you can move to the next step.
The next step is being able to relax around others you don’t know, both same and opposite sex. Talk to them like you want to know them, talk to them like you would talk to your good friend. That is unless you don’t want to talk to them, in that case forget it just sit and chill. Making sure you are groomed properly helps to relax sometimes. Remember you can groom yourself anyway you want but the way you groom will depict what type of crowd you draw in. Never over dress, know where your going and if you don’t know or at least have an idea. A pair of nice khakis with a decent shirt ( a shirt with buttons) will do. Don’t wear that pair of out dated running shoes unless you are wearing a pair of old jeans with your 15yr old t-shirt. Most importly you need to realize, you are who you are and you will do better if you stay true to yourself and respect yourself as well as others.