02.23.05
What do you want?
What do you want from life? What do you want to be? What do you want to become? You need to figure out where you want to go first, then figure out the roads to take.
What do you want?
In this show you’ll learn why relying strictly on canned material may hurt your game. You’ll learn how to handle women ignoring you. Finally, you’ll learn that it’s important to figure out what you want; otherwise the roads you take will lead you in circles.
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- What do you want? (mp3) - Size: 3.65mb - Time: 16m 02s
Ben said,
March 8, 2005 at 3:50 pm
Hey! The ZD! What happened to the MothaB show? You haven’t made one sence Febuary. I really encurage making another one becuase I think it is a great show and could become very successful.
Amy Gahran said,
March 15, 2005 at 7:03 pm
I listened to this show. It’s a decent attempt. Keep at it.
However, I want to let you know that one bit of advice you offered here is disastrously wrong. You advised your listeners that if a guy approaches a group of women and try to strike up a conversation, if he repeatedly gets ignored, he should then turn to his “wing man” (sounds like a cross between an accomplice and a Greek chorus) and start mocking/insulting the women in retaliation.
You said this help’s preserve the guy’s “social value.” Wrong. It does exactly the opposite. Such behavior makes the guy look insecure, mean-spirited, rude, self-centered, and petty. If anything, that causes his social value to plummet through the earth’s crust.
A better approach would be to learn to handle a social rejection gracefully and to not take it personally. Just quietly walk away. Know that there are all sorts of reasons why a woman or a group of women might not be interested in conversing with a particular guy at a particular moment. Those reasons usually have nothing at all to do with the guy!
Guys who master this bit of social etiquette will more often than not get a second chance later. The jerk who turns to his friend/security blanket in a frantic effort to rescue his ego and reaffirm his exaggerated sense of entitlement will be written off permanently by every woman in earshot.
Food for thought,
- Amy Gahran
Editor, CONTENTIOUS